When A Man Falls In Love He Shows His True Feelings In These 11 Ways

Are you constantly trying to interpret the subtle signs that a guy might be interested in you? When a man falls in love with you it won’t be a mystery. His feelings will be apparent through his actions and you won’t have to be a mind reader to know he’s falling for you.

How many times have you met a great guy and it doesn’t go anywhere? He’s attractive, there’s a connection between the two of you — you’re hopeful that this time it’s a match, but the relationship never goes anywhere. He doesn’t reach out or text you but readily responds to your communication. The relationship limps along until eventually it just fizzles out, and you’re left confused and wondering what you did wrong.

When a man falls in love, his actions speak louder than his words. He won’t be subtle about his feelings for you, but you can be led astray if you let your wishful thinking or bad dating habits blind you to a guy who’s not relationship ready. You can waste a lot of time with the guy who’s just looking for some companionship.

You can stop trying to guess or create meaning out of subtle clues in his behavior. Instead, look for these signs that he is falling for you and actually wants a relationship with you (and if he’s not taking these actions move on to find someone who does).

When A Man Falls In Love He Shows His True Feelings In These 11 Ways

  1. He Wants To Impress You

When a man falls in love he’ll want to prove that he’s worthy of your heart. Like many animals going through a mating dance, he’ll puff up his feathers and try to impress you. He may try to impress you with his earning ability, his intelligence, his charm, or his fancy toys (like cars, boats, or video games).

He may not always know how to impress you, so you may misinterpret his actions as talking too much, not being interested in you, or showing off and bragging about himself. Underneath his bravado, he just wants to prove himself worthy of you.

Rather than discount a man who’s working hard to gain your affection let him know what you value so he can actually dazzle you instead of missing the mark. Share with him how he can captivate your heart and see if he can make an adjustment.

When a man falls in love, he’ll work to impress you long after he’s won your heart as long as you acknowledge and appreciate his efforts.

  1. He Claims You And Wants To Take You Off The Market

When a man falls in love, he wants to be exclusive with you so that he won’t lose you to the competition. He clearly sees you as a good match and may rush to take you off the market.

He may be moving a little too quickly for you, but his desire for exclusivity means that he likes you and is serious about you. If he isn’t making moves to claim you then he may fancy you but he’s not looking for a serious relationship — he may want something convenient and easy with no strings attached.

Guys who are not relationship ready still want companionship and physical intimacy so spending time with you and having sex doesn’t mean he wants a relationship. If he’s not making moves to take you off the market then you must continue to date other guys.

When a man falls in love he’ll want you all to himself. He’ll ask you to go exclusive and his words and actions will match up to let you know he’s reliable.

  1. He Will Wait For You

Just because he is rushing to take you off the market doesn’t mean that he’ll disappear if you tell him you aren’t ready to go exclusive yet. He’ll wait for you to be ready, and he’ll also be willing to wait for sex.

Don’t make the mistake of rushing in before you know if he is a good match for you. Just because he wants to claim you doesn’t mean that he’s your man, it just means that he’s interested in a relationship with you. Ultimately you have veto power so don’t rush in because the chemistry is hot. It takes more than attraction to make a relationship last.

If he’s moving too quickly tell him, “Not yet,” instead of, “No.” Letting him know you’re interested in him and waiting to discover more about him is a world of difference from rejecting him outright. Proceed with caution while getting to know each other and let him know the intimacy will be great when you’re ready to take that step.

When a man falls in love with you, he’s willing to let you slow the pace of the relationship and he’ll be patient while you take time to make up your mind.

  1. He Listens And Responds To Your Requests

When a man falls in love, he listens to you and makes an effort to please you. Don’t waste your time with a guy who isn’t willing to adjust to your requests. Too many women are overly accommodating so they go along to get along. This is not a good strategy for discovering your match for a lifelong partnership.

A man who wants a relationship with you is willing to do what it takes. Give him some hurdles to overcome to earn your love. Mr. Convenient Guy will move along if he has to put in too much effort. Rejection is your protection through the dating process. Let the wrong guys deselect themselves and move on so you’re free to find the man who’s willing to earn your devotion. The man who wants a relationship with you will step up and try to win your heart.

When a man falls in love he will pay close attention to your likes and dislikes and will make an effort to please you.

  1. He Puts On His Superhero Cape

When a man falls in love, he wants to be your hero. He feels a sense of pride in being able to fix things for you and solve your problems. Whether he wants to help fix your car or your problems at work, his efforts to prove himself to you are evidence that he is falling for you.

Acknowledge and appreciate his efforts to help you and you’ll see his confidence grow in your relationship. A man who feels like he can solve your problems will stick by you through thick and thin. If he doesn’t feel appreciated then he may withdraw, become insecure, or move on to find a woman who does value his efforts.

Instinctually a man will want to provide something for you. So if you’re the career woman, allow him to provide something of value to you even if it’s not financial security. Let him know that you appreciate his insights, his help with some of your projects or workouts, or that his hugs ground you and leave you feeling safe.

When a man falls in love, he will want to be the only man that you come to with your problems so he can put on his Superman cape and come to your aid.

  1. He Makes An Effort To Repair And Reconnect After A Conflict

All relationships will hit some bumps and endure conflicts. Just because he is falling in love with you doesn’t mean that he won’t make any mistakes. But when a man falls in love, he will be willing to make it up to you when he does.

Love does not come with mind-reading powers. Just because he loves you doesn’t mean he somehow knows exactly what you want and need. Don’t judge a man on his ability to anticipate what you want. Judge him on his ability to clean up his mistakes and do what is necessary to make it up to you.

When a man falls in love he will take responsibility for his errors and will be willing to make amends for when he has let you down.

  1. His Goal Is To Make You Happy

A man who wants a relationship with you will want to make you happy. He knows that a happy wife makes for a happy life. His actions will show you he’s in it to win it with you and that he has no interest in anyone else.

He’ll take pride in knowing how to bring more joy into your life. He’ll pay attention to the little details of your likes and dislikes. A man who doesn’t care about your wants or needs isn’t interested in anything long-term with you.

Make it easy for a man you’re interested in to bring you more joy. Tell him what you do and do not like when it comes to food, music, hobbies, and sex. Let him know how to please you. Don’t keep it a secret and then judge him because he doesn’t know (that wouldn’t be fair or kind).

When a man falls in love, he will deliver to you exactly what you desire as long as you spell it out for him. Make it easy for him to know how to increase your joy.

  1. He Wants To Make You Part Of His Life

When a man falls in love, he wants to include you in his life. He’ll introduce you to his friends, and he’ll invite you to gatherings with his family. If he’s keeping you to himself and not making you a part of his life, then he may not see you in his future. Having a secret romance can feel exciting but it won’t turn into a lasting relationship (if he’s hiding you he’s also hiding things from you).

See if he wants to show you off to his friends and family. Does he share with you what’s going on at work or ask for your advice about an issue in his life? If you’re in the dark about his life outside of the relationship — beware!

A man who values you in his life will share the details of his life with you. If he is being secretive he is keeping things from you for a reason.

When a man falls in love, he will want to show you off to the people close to him.

  1. He Sees You In His Future

When a man falls in love, he will make a plan for your future together. Whether he’s booking you for dates in the future, planning a trip together, or buying tickets to events three months in advance, he sees the two of you together beyond the present moment.

A man who isn’t moving things forward probably likes you but isn’t falling for you. He may find you attractive and enjoy your company, but he isn’t ready for a relationship. You can easily discover the difference by leaning back and letting him lead.

If he’s moving the relationship forward, then he’s likely falling for you. If he’s waiting for you to pursue then stop putting in the effort to see him and he’ll probably disappear. Better to know now than three more months down the road when you’re more attached to him.

When a man falls in love, he will plan a future with you in it.

  1. He’s Willing And Able To Work Through Conflict With You

Conflict is a natural part of all relationships. Just because the two of you love each other doesn’t mean that you will always get along or that you won’t have disagreements. Happily ever after only happens in the movies.

A man who loves you is willing and able to figure it out with you when things get bumpy. Don’t shy away from conflict and smooth over disagreements at the beginning. Instead, use conflict to discover if the two of you can navigate life’s challenges together.

If he’s unwilling to see your side of things or doesn’t want to address your differences, then he probably isn’t going to be a good match in the long run. Conflict can be a doorway to a deeper connection when you are with a man who isn’t too stubborn or closed off to be authentic with you.

When a man falls in love, he will be willing to work things out with you no matter the challenge at hand.

  1. He Loves Your Weirdness

When a man falls in love with you, it’s because he loves you for who you really are. Your man loves those things that others may have broken up with you about. He even loves your flaws and your quirkiness.

He won’t ask you to change. He isn’t falling for a fantasy of you, he’s falling for the real authentic you and will adore the quirky things about you. Let your uniqueness shine brightly so that a man who is looking for you can find you.

When a man falls in love, he falls in love with all of you, the good, the bad, and the ugly.

Stop wondering or guessing if he likes you. Don’t put any effort into guys who are not putting in the effort for you. Follow these signs and you won’t waste your time with Mr. Convenient and instead, you’ll find yourself with your Mr. Right.

Do you constantly fall for emotionally unavailable men or men who aren’t relationship ready? Click here to watch this video on how to break the cycle of attracting unavailable men.

About the authors

Love Coaches Orna and Matthew Walters

Orna and Matthew Walters are soulmate coaches and prolific writers about love. Finding love, keeping love, healing from heartbreak, bringing in your beloved and more. They have been published on MSN, Yahoo!, YourTango, Redbook, and have been featured guest experts on BRAVO’s THE MILLIONAIRE MATCHMAKER with Patti Stanger, and as guests with Esther Perel speaking about love and intimacy.

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