When you’re struggling to stay positive and not get sucked into the vortex of negativity, you need to know how to feel good about yourself right now. Not sometime in the future, not when you finally achieve some milestone, you need to feel good about yourself right now.

The fear that your negative feelings won’t ever go away, or won’t go away so easily is simply a false worry. Happiness, joy, and peace can seem so ephemeral, while sadness, heartache, and loneliness can feel everlasting.

The truth is you do have control over how you feel, and you can transform your negative feelings quickly and easily.

If you are struggling to stay positive, then follow these steps for how to feel good about yourself right now.

1. Brighten Someone Else’s Day

Have you heard that the best way to feel better when you’re down is to do something nice for someone else?

If you want more love in your life, find ways to spread love to others.

Who do you know that needs some love right now?

Who can you reach out to with a text or a phone call?

Maybe you can leave a basket on your porch for delivery workers with some treats and TP for them to take and brighten their day?

Or maybe write a letter or send a card to someone you care about to let them know you’re thinking about them?

Want to know how to feel good about yourself right now? Reaching out to others in need will give you an instant lift. Putting your focus on helping someone will take the energy away from your problems and put you into a service mindset.

Everyone is here to be of service in some way. Some are being of service in tangible ways, but service can be as simple as reaching out to someone in need or doing something nice for someone who isn’t expecting it.

2. Create Connection With Those You Love

Whether you’re living by yourself or with others are you taking time to really connect? Part of feeling down is a feeling of disconnection from others. Humans are social creatures who need to feel like they belong. Taking time to connect with those close to you, or with those who you’ve not spoken to in a while, will bring you that sense of belonging that you desire.

Feeling disconnected from those you are close to can be one of the most painful and isolating of feelings.

Here is a connection practice you can do before going to sleep every night (feel free to adapt it to your liking):

Before going to bed connect with each of your loved ones by placing a hand on one another’s heart and take a turn to ask, “Do you need anything from me?”

This is an opportunity to wipe the slate clean from the day. This gives YOU a moment to express yourself about what your needs are.

If you’re on your own and you don’t have other people to connect with before bed, you can do this practice to connect with yourself and ask your Inner Child what she needs.

This experience can be quite profound and the habit of regularly connecting with yourself and your Inner Child will bring you many gifts.

3. Focus On What You Are Grateful For

Every study on happiness points to gratitude as one of the biggest keys to living a happy life. Put your focus on what is going well and then you will feel more resourceful taking action towards what needs improvement.

Each night before bed, list 5 things you are grateful for. If you have children this can become a fun nighttime ritual before bed.

Throughout your day, take time to share your gratitude with others for their smile, their kindness, or their efforts.

Gratitude is a practice of appreciation. Take time to find appreciation for the people in your life. Can you list all of the qualities that you appreciate in those close to you? Have you ever shared your appreciation with them?

Taking time to share your appreciation and gratitude with those you care about will deepen your relationship with them. It will also spread love and happiness.

How would your relationship with your mother, your partner, your ex, your child, or your friend change if you shared something you appreciated about them each day for 7 days straight?

Want to really know how to feel good about yourself right now? Practice gratitude and share your gratitude with the people in your life. Spread love and happiness and feel your own happiness grow.

4. Celebrate Your Successes

Do you end each day thinking about all the things you haven’t done, saying to yourself, “I didn’t …” “I should’ve …” or “I could’ve …?” Your inner dialog about yourself is the determining factor in how you feel about yourself and your life.

When you put your focus on your failures you have no fuel to make any changes in your life. It drains you of energy and motivation. Plus speaking negatively to yourself just before going to sleep allows those negative thoughts to seep into your subconscious. It’s no wonder you often feel like a failure.

Instead, fill your tank at the end of the day by focusing on what you did get done. These successes need not be lifetime accomplishments. Successes are relative to that day. If you have a head cold making toast and tea for yourself is a success. Getting your laundry done is always a success you can recognize.

On the days you are feeling good about yourself, start making a list of lifetime accomplishments. These are achievements from throughout your life and are age-appropriate. Be sure to start your list with learning to walk and to talk because not everyone gets to do that.

Your lifetime accomplishments become fuel on the days when you are struggling to stay positive. Looking back on your triumphs inspires and motivates you to accomplish more. Focusing on what you haven’t yet accomplished in your life drains your energy and motivation.

Do you desire to know how to feel good about yourself right now? Focus on your achievements, not your failures, and write down 5 successes for the day.

5. Find Compassion For Yourself And Others

Judgment of self and of others creates a feeling of disconnection and steals your happiness. The truth is everyone is human and therefore flawed in some way. Only machines are perfect, all humans make mistakes. Everyone is deserving of compassion for their flaws and is still worthy of love, even you.

Can you practice putting yourself in someone else’s shoes and finding understanding for their choices and their behaviors for feeling loved and safe?

The biggest mistake you can make in ALL of your relationships is to assume that the two of you will have the same strategies. Or to judge other people because their strategies are NOT like your own. Finding compassion for those strategies or behaviors that you disagree with will melt your judgment and fill your heart with love.

The key to a successful relationship is remembering that the other person is not you. You will have different strategies for dealing with the same events and situations. Communicating with compassion and kindness is essential to finding a way to reconnect and repair with the people in your life that you love.

This doesn’t mean that you have to excuse bad behavior, but finding understanding for why someone behaves the way they do will transform your judgment into love.

When it comes to yourself are you still riddled with regret and self-doubt? Finding compassion for yourself allows you to heal and create positive change in every area of your life.

Accepting your past mistakes because you didn’t know better will allow you to feel good about yourself right now. When you know better, you’ll do better and make better choices.

6. Laugh Your Troubles Away

Laughter produces endorphins, which naturally makes you feel good. In fact, even just putting a smile on your face will trigger the endorphin response.

If you are feeling down and wondering how to feel good about yourself right now, find something that makes you smile or laugh and let your body’s natural processes melt away your troubles.

Watch your favorite comedy, read a funny book, or find funny videos on YouTube. Discovering sources of humor in life around you will immediately transform negative emotions.

You don’t even have to be sincere about smiling or laughing. If you put a fake smile on your face or practice a laugh, you will still get the benefits.

To deepen your laughter practice, you can retell a story about a past issue while laughing. Find a friend to share with, or do this with yourself in a mirror. Retell the events of a recent problem but laugh out loud while telling the story. The endorphin rush that you produce will transform your relationship to the past event.

You can simply cycle through the three sounds of laughter: Ha-Ha-Ha, Ho-Ho-Ho, Hee-Hee-Hee!

To discover how to feel good about yourself right now, laugh and smile at your troubles. What is the difference between a story being funny or being tragic? An endorphin rush is the delineating factor.

7. Affirm Your New Reality

Do you know you have an inner dialog with yourself all day long? This conversation in your own head is affirming your reality.

If you’re telling yourself all day long:

• “I can’t find the love I want.”
• “I failed again.”
• “The world is a scary place.”

It’s no wonder that you’re feeling anxious, fearful, and worried. In order to change your reality, change your inner dialog.

Bringing conscious choice to what you affirm allows you to create and shape your reality. Feeling good about yourself right now can be as easy as identifying your negative self-talk and replacing it with positive affirmations.

Let’s look at what makes an effective affirmation.

Effective affirmations are stated in the positive. Don’t affirm what you don’t want, only affirm what you are moving towards.

Write or say your affirmations as if they are happening right now. You don’t want to affirm something that you hope or wish to accomplish in the future. You’ll just be creating more hoping and wishing. Instead affirm it as if it is already happening.

Use in-process language to affirm large goals. If you are affirming something that is a big change in your life, your subconscious may reject the affirmation. Instead use language like, “I’m excited to learn…” or “I’m developing new skills to …” This will put you in the mindset of moving toward your goals.

Put emotion into your affirmations. When you are affirming how bad things are in your life, you feel all of the negative emotion attached to that. You can put more juice in your positive affirmations by saying them with energy and emotion and by using powerful emotional words when you write or say them.

If you want to quickly experience how to feel good about yourself right now then practice affirming what you desire. You’ll find that it is so much easier to believe that you can create what you want when you already believe that you deserve it.

With all the uncertainty in the world don’t let your negative thoughts and feelings rob you of the happiness that you deserve to feel today. Follow these steps and you’ll find yourself feeling more present, more connected, and more empowered to live a happy life full of love no matter what is going on around you.

Are you struggling with your current reality and want some help in discovering what is possible for you? Schedule a complimentary Soulmate Strategy Session with us and we’ll share with you how you can create a life full of love and joy.