Blocks to Love

"Hi Orna and Matthew, Why do I attract married men?! I seem to be stuck in this pattern and I need a way to repel them so they stop wasting my time. I must confess when I was younger, I was the other woman in a few relationships, and I feel terrible about it. Since [...]

“Dear O&M, I’m a bit on the shy side, so I’ve put off emailing you my question… I think I’ve also struggled with how to word it. Here’s my best shot: how is my unresolved emotional baggage holding me back from finding true love? I’m not even sure true love exists so maybe I’m not [...]

Do you think you’re too old for love? Maybe you think dating is for younger people; it can seem hard to meet new people when you’re over 40. It doesn’t matter if you’re 35 or 75, the belief that you’re too old for love can dash your hopes and cause you to keep your love [...]

One of the best parts of the early stage of dating is discovering each other and creating emotional connection and intimacy. Opening your heart to someone new has so much hope and possibility for what you can create together. But what if you start to feel emotionally distant or emotionally detached from the guy you’re [...]

Let’s face it, as you get older it can be harder to meet someone who isn’t carrying a cartload of emotional baggage. You don’t have to go far to find dating horror stories that can scare you away from meeting someone new. It can seem like dating is hopeless for those in their second or [...]

"Hi Orna and Matthew, Does love equal sacrifice? I think I have a misconception about love. I keep thinking that it means I have to focus on my partner’s needs and by satisfying their needs I’ll get mine satisfied as well. It seems that on some level I believe you have to sacrifice for a relationship [...]

“Hi Orna and Matthew, I’ve been delving into so much of what you two share and I’m realizing so much about myself. The truth is I'm still afraid of losing myself in a relationship. How do I ensure that I won’t go back to that behavior again?” Dear Vicki, You’ve already taken the [...]

“Hi Orna and Matthew, Do men want what they can’t have? Here’s my pattern… every single time I allow myself to TRULY love a man and trust/become vulnerable/believe he loves me back – he leaves! All different types of men, wildly variable circumstances and timelines, but each time I chose to love – they leave. [...]

“Dear Orna and Matthew, I’ve got such a negative attitude about love and relationships these days. I can’t seem to believe that love is in the cards for me and then when I go online I just see a bunch of fake profiles or guys I would never date. I’m sure that people are constantly being [...]

“Hello Orna and Matthew, I worry that I am destined to be alone. It’s been so long since I’ve had a relationship that I often think I’m going to be alone for the rest of my life. I have been told by some very good psychics that I made a life contract that is solid, and [...]