When you struggle with finding a partner and experience long droughts in your dating life, you may find yourself asking, “Am I destined to be alone?” You wind up feeling as if some unseen force is keeping you from the long-lasting love you desire. Ultimately, the belief that you’re meant to be alone leaves you feeling powerless.

Frustration leads you to seek hope in your horoscope, a local psychic, or crafting a love spell with AI. You fear that destiny or fate keeps intervening to keep you single.

The limiting belief that love is not meant to be for you becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, increasing your heartache and frustration every time a potential match fizzles out. The myth of love by accident has you caught in a perpetual cycle of helpless to hopeless in your love life.

You’re Not Destined To Be Alone

In reality, you’re not powerless in your love life. There are no hidden forces secretly plotting to keep you single and alone. The power to change your course in love lies in your own hands just as with every other area of life.

The world appears to you as you believe it to be. If you imagine you’re destined to be alone, then every failed relationship becomes evidence. Rather than seeking answers outside yourself from psychics, astrologers, or a Tarot deck, discover the story you keep repeating to yourself about your love life.

By asking, “Am I destined to be alone?” you’re abdicating your power in love. You’re preventing yourself from digging into the real reasons why long-lasting love has been elusive for you.

You are not meant to be alone. As a human being you are divinely guided to partner for many reasons besides procreation and species survival. People in happy marriages reap many benefits, including more likely to recover from a life-threatening illness, more productive at work, and live longer (to name a few).

If you’re courageous enough to challenge the beliefs that no longer serve you, you can create the future you desire.

Are You Destined To Be Alone? Here’s How To Change Your Fate In Love

1. Use Discomfort As Motivation

Difficult circumstances can be fuel to create the changes you long for. Whether it’s changing jobs, losing weight and getting into shape, or straightening out your love life, motivation comes from dissatisfaction with your current circumstances.

Use the discomfort and frustration that arises by thinking you’re destined to be alone, as motivation. Prove your exes wrong. Tell yourself, “I can’t wait for them to see me happy alongside my beloved.”

Many famous performers and athletes recount a story of someone who didn’t believe in them as motivation for proving that person wrong. This can be a powerful force in keeping you going as you transform your limiting beliefs about love. Decide that you’ll prove that voice in your head wrong, that you won’t quit until you reach your goal of a beloved life partner by your side.

2. Your Free Will Is Stronger Than Your Perceived Fate

To break free of the belief that you’re meant to be alone, you’ll have to decide that your free will is stronger than any karma, soul contract, astrological conditions, or whatever you think is determining your fate. You have the power to break free from this perceived curse, but first you must stop giving your power away to psychics, astrologers, energy healers, and their interpretation of your destiny.

A psychic or intuitive doesn’t have the power to successfully predict the future 100% of the time. The reason is that you have free will. You can make a different choice or take a new action. The psychic is just reading your current energy and seeing what your future looks like if nothing changes. Like a train on a track, psychics see where you’re currently headed–nothing more, nothing less.

You are 100% responsible for your life. You need not continue down the same track, you can change course when you like. If you desire a great love relationship, you must release yourself from the idea that you’re destined to be alone, as if there is some power in the universe doling out who does or doesn’t get to have long-lasting love.

3. Take Responsibility For Changing Your Life

It’s tempting to look for something outside of you–an authority figure, a psychic, signs from the universe, etc., to change your life. If some wise sages could grant you the wisdom you need to finally have love in your life, then you could rest easy.

But that wisdom is inside of you. You are your own authority. Part of accepting that truth is learning to trust yourself. If you’re meant to be alone, then there’s nothing you can do. Notice how that leaves you feeling powerless. If it’s true, then you might as well give up trying and make the most of your lonely life.

You’re not destined to be alone, nor are you powerless to alter your life. If you’re unhappy, only you can make you happy. You are responsible for changing your life, no one else can do that for you.

Creating a long-lasting romantic relationship does not happen by accident. It is a conscious journey to bring in a beloved partner, one that you have the free will choice to embark upon.

4. The Belief In Your Destiny Is Keeping You Safe

The belief that you’re destined to be alone is often partnered with the belief that some higher power is keeping you safe. As if God, or the universe, is looking out for you by keeping you lonely and alone.

There’s no one behind the steering wheel of your life except for you. Certainly guidance comes in many forms, but safety is something completely different because safety is the most important thing to your subconscious mind.

Your subconscious doesn’t care if you’re safe and happy, or safe and miserable. It just wants to keep things the same. Your subconscious mind is committed to homeostasis above all else. Ultimately, in order to release the belief that you’re meant to be alone, you’ll have to break the habit of looking for answers outside of yourself and embody the belief that you are worth loving.

5. You Are Unique But You Are Not The Exception

You’re not special in that you are somehow destined to be alone in this life or in any other. You’re just like everyone else. Sharing your life with another person is part of being human. You were born the physical embodiment of the energy of love (just like every child that has come into the world), and you deserve to be loved and to share your life with a partner who gets you and loves you.

Many people believe that they’re the exception. They believe they are meant to be alone in this life and that nothing they do will change that fact. The majority of these people have usually given up because they are tired of experiencing heartbreak and loneliness. They believe that they’ll feel more peaceful if they just stop looking and release the desire for a soulmate.

It’s up to you to take the glimmer of hope you have and to grow it. Start taking actions that will change your fate and release the belief that you’re destined to be alone.

6. Your Beliefs Shape Your Experiences

If you’re reaching out to psychics, astrologers, and healers, you’ve most likely had struggles in your relationships. These struggles have you seeking answers to why you’re meant to be alone. Your mind keeps focusing on examples from your past, and your experiences reinforce the belief. You’re now stuck in a loop of belief – evidence – reinforced belief – more evidence, and so on.

This cycle is shaping your experiences; however, it’s not the be-all and end-all. You’re not powerless to change it and release it altogether. Just like people who have been smoking cigarettes for decades. They identify as a smoker, and they have lived within the culture of a smoker for many years. Their social life revolves around taking the time to smoke. At some point, many of them decide to break the pattern and release the need and the desire to smoke. They change into a non-smoker just as you can change into a person who is living your life alongside your soulmate.

7. Discover The Source Of Your False Beliefs

To break this pattern, you need to discover the source of the belief that you’re unlike everyone else on the planet and destined to be alone. Begin looking for the source by examining your childhood.

Root out the belief that you are meant to be alone like a weed in a garden. Pull it up from the underground and shine it in the light where you can see it for the falsehood that it is.

Just like in The Wizard of Oz, Dorothy discovers that the Wizard has no real powers and is just a man behind the curtain. And like Dorothy, you’ll also discover that you have the power to create your own destiny.

When you were born, you were just like any other child who came into this world – you were the physical embodiment of the energy of love. You didn’t have any limiting beliefs about love. You gave love freely, and you received love openly.

And like all children, you grew to discover that love was conditional in some way. To get the love you wanted you had to take on certain beliefs, strategies, and behaviors. Very quickly this system became part of your understanding of how love works for you.

We call this system Your Love Imprint^®. It includes your limiting beliefs, your mental and emotional patterns, and your strategies for giving and receiving love. Your Love Imprint is driving your behavior in how you approach dating, mating, and relating. It’s the core wound from childhood that needs to be transformed to release the limiting belief that you are destined to be alone.

8. Change Your Patterns, Change Your Destiny

Healing your childhood wounds empowers you to let go of the emotional charge on your belief that you’re meant to be alone. Meditating and looking for guidance are useful tools on your journey, but the deeper work of healing is what will change the outcome and your experiences.

You have an emotional story that you’re meant to be alone, and it isn’t serving you. This isn’t to diminish your experience as much to encourage you to understand that you’ve created the meaning out of past events. Nothing has meaning except the meaning you give it. It’s very likely you assigned meaning to events from your childhood that led you to determine you’re destined to be alone. Now as a grown adult, you can reassign new meanings that serve you to create what you desire – a life partner!

The past doesn’t have to be a predictor of what the future will bring. But to change your destiny, you ultimately need to change your inner beliefs and triggers.

If you would like to take a new approach to creating lasting love and be the change you’d like to see in your love life, pick up a copy of our book, Getting It Right This Time: Break Free from Your Hidden Blocks to Lasting Love. If you’re stuck in a cycle of bad, toxic, or unfulfilling relationships this book is the step-by-step system to heal your heart and find your forever person. Available as an ebook, hardcover, or audiobook everywhere books are sold.