How To Know If A Man Truly Loves You So You Stop Wasting Time On The Wrong Men

How much time have you spent on a man who wasn’t truly interested in a long-term relationship? Did you find yourself making excuses for his behavior? Or compromising and giving up on what you really want as an attempt to make things work out? Are you wondering how to know if a man loves you and is an ideal match for you so you don’t make the same mistakes again?

Putting more time into a mismatched relationship isn’t suddenly going to make things all better. Stop wasting your time with men who are not a match for you, who aren’t worthy of your love.

You deserve to have soul-satisfying, long-lasting love with a man who cherishes you and treats you with respect. Would you be able to recognize this type of man if he showed up in your life? Or would you overlook him due to some superficial rational?

How To Know If A Man Truly Loves You So You Stop Wasting Time On The Wrong Men

There is a clear distinction between a man who loves you and a man who kind of likes you, and will stick around if you make it convenient for him.

The truth about men is that their actions are a clear indication of their desires. Many men talk a good game, but it is the ones who back up their talk with their actions that you want to give your time, energy, and heart to.

When you are clear on how to know if a man loves you, you realize that these kind of men aren’t unicorns. There are just as many good men in the world as there are good women. The secret is being able to recognize them when you meet them.

  1. He Wants To Be Your Hero

For most men, it is wired into their DNA that they want to be useful to you. They want to solve your problems and prove that they are worthy of receiving your love.

If a man doesn’t want to be your hero, then he probably isn’t that interested in you. Or he’s emotionally unavailable and incapable of adding to your life. Don’t waste your time on men who aren’t secretly wearing a cape and desiring of your admiration.

Just because you can solve your own problems and don’t need a man to help doesn’t mean that you will be happy as the problem solver in the relationship. If you don’t want to be playing mommy to your man, find a man who wants to be the one helping you through life and solving your problems as they come up.

If you’re curious how to know if a man loves you, see if he is stepping up to be your hero.

  1. He Works To Make You Happy

It’s not your man’s job to make you happy, that is your responsibility. However, a man who loves you will want to know how to make you happy and will be willing to do what it takes.

The old adage, “Happy wife, happy life” is an instinctual goal of a good man. He will be curious about what you like and what brings you joy. He’ll make his best efforts to do the things that you ask of him. He’ll care about how you feel.

How to know if a man loves you? He is actively working to make you feel happier and bring more joy to your life.

  1. He Listens To How You Feel And What You Need

For many men how a woman feels often doesn’t make sense to them. They are confused by this emotional creature and wonder why you can’t just be more logical about what is going on. This doesn’t mean that they aren’t willing to hear about your feelings, they are just a little confused by them.

How a man reacts to your emotional life tells you a lot about whether or not he is worth your time and your devotion.

A man who contradicts your feelings, denies your feelings, or gets defensive when you share your feelings, may not be capable of giving you what you need.

A man who is willing to listen to how you feel and respond to what you need is one who is worth your time. He may not always understand, but he will want to know how you feel, what you need, and will work to comfort you when you are upset.

Do you want to identify how to know a man loves you? Share with him how you feel and what you need from him and see how he responds. He may not be capable in the moment of giving you what you ask so give him time to think about your request. A man worth your time and devotion will find a way to meet your needs.

  1. He Is Willing To Make It Up To You

Everyone makes mistakes. It is how someone responds when they make a mistake that tells you a lot about what they are capable of. A man who loves you will be willing to own his mistakes and do what is necessary to make it up to you.

Don’t waste your time with men who won’t take responsibility. You are not your man’s mother nor are you his savior. It is not your responsibility to either live with his mistakes or to clean them up for him.

Look for a man who is capable of apologizing when he screws up, who can take responsibility for his own behavior, and who is willing to make amends to you. When a man does what is necessary to make it up to you, you will find your love and respect for him grow even stronger.

How to know if a man loves you? Observe his behavior when he makes a mistake.

  1. He Doesn’t Need You To Change

Have you ever been with a man who professes love for you and then proceeds to want to change everything from your wardrobe, to your spending habits, to your strategies for dealing with conflict? This is a man who is in love with a fantasy of who he thinks you are.

A man who truly loves you will love and accept you as is – without the desire to change you.

On some level, everyone desires to be loved for who they really are. Find a man who accepts you and loves you without the desire to change you. You’ll know that he loves the real authentic you, and not some delusion of you that he has created in his mind.

  1. He Is Willing To Work Through Conflict

Conflict is a natural part of an intimate relationship. If it is ignored, it will always be there under the surface. Working through your differences and conflicts as they occur will bring you closer to your beloved while avoiding them will only create distance between the two of you.

A man who loves you will be willing to work through conflicts as they arise. It may be bumpy at times, and it won’t always be pretty, but working through conflict together will deepen your love over time.

A man who tries to enforce his way as the only way, or who discounts your disagreements with him as not important doesn’t value you. He is behaving more like a dictator than a partner.

How to know if a man loves you? Notice how he responds to conflict and disagreement. If he is willing to work through conflict with you then he is worth investing in.

  1. He Makes An Effort To Honor Your Requests

As the song says, “You Can’t Always Get What You Want,” but that doesn’t mean that you should spend your time in a relationship where you don’t even get what you need. A man who is making an effort to honor your requests is a man who loves you.

His efforts may not always meet with success. Change in behavior can take time as old habits can be hard to break. But that doesn’t mean that he isn’t trying.

Beware the man who agrees to honor your requests and then never does anything about them. He may just want to avoid conflict by placating you and agreeing. But if he isn’t making any effort then he isn’t really interested in meeting your requests.

If you are curious how to know if a man loves you, see if he is making an effort towards meeting your requests. Acknowledge his effort and you will see positive change in your relationship.

  1. He Will Claim You

One of the sexiest things a man can do is to claim you. It’s likely you’ve been in a relationship where you felt insecure and unsure of his feelings for you. It seemed like he was holding back something and not really ready to step up.

This is a man who doesn’t know what he wants. And as much as you may want to prove to him that what he wants is you unless it is his decision he will not step up to claim you.

A man who loves you will claim you. He will want the world to know his love for you. He’ll show you off to his family and friends. He will want to take you off the market so no other man can have you.

No man is perfect. He will have flaws, make mistakes, and disappoint you at times. But ultimately a man who loves you will do what it takes to make your love last.

If you desire long-lasting, soul-satisfying love and are curious how to know if a man loves you, look for these signs that he is in it for the long haul with you and not just looking for something convenient. You will be rewarded with a deep lasting love that can stand the test of time.

Don’t know if you are worthy of this kind of relationship? Or maybe don’t trust yourself to spot the right man for you? Afraid you’ll pick the wrong man that you’ll somehow be stuck with? Pick up a complimentary copy of our acclaimed ebook: Recognizing Mr. Right.

About the authors

Love Coaches Orna and Matthew Walters

Orna and Matthew Walters are soulmate coaches and prolific writers about love. Finding love, keeping love, healing from heartbreak, bringing in your beloved and more. They have been published on MSN, Yahoo!, YourTango, Redbook, and have been featured guest experts on BRAVO’s THE MILLIONAIRE MATCHMAKER with Patti Stanger, and as guests with Esther Perel speaking about love and intimacy.

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