Blocks to Love

“Hi Orna and Matthew, I'm so sick of sabotaging my relationships! Recently, I completely blew it with a guy who was a great match for me, but my fears got in the way of me being open and vulnerable with him. I get scared and clam up. I'm afraid my relationship self-sabotage strategies are still [...]

"Hi Orna and Matthew, Why do I attract married men?! I seem to be stuck in this pattern and I need a way to repel them so they stop wasting my time. I must confess when I was younger, I was the other woman in a few relationships, and I feel terrible about it. Since [...]

“Dear O&M, I’m a bit on the shy side, so I’ve put off emailing you my question… I think I’ve also struggled with how to word it. Here’s my best shot: how is my unresolved emotional baggage holding me back from finding true love? I’m not even sure true love exists so maybe I’m not [...]

“Hi Orna and Matthew, Do men want what they can’t have? Here’s my pattern… every single time I allow myself to TRULY love a man and trust/become vulnerable/believe he loves me back – he leaves! All different types of men, wildly variable circumstances and timelines, but each time I chose to love – they leave. [...]

“Dear Orna and Matthew, I want your help leaving my emotional baggage behind! I’ve had lots of issues around relationships and I feel like I can’t help but bring that baggage into my current relationship. I’m almost 50 and I’m not even sure I want to be married. My boyfriend and I really enjoy each [...]