8 Signs You’re Tired Of Being Single
How do you know when you are finally ready to make the leap and change your dating strategies? You first must recognize the signs you’re tired of being single.
Do you feel conflicted with jealousy and joy when your friends get engaged?
Are you stuck in the dating desert and just want to meet your guy so you can get on with the rest of your life as you planned?
Do you fear being left behind by your group of friends who are all getting married and having babies?
These feelings are signs that you’re tired of being single and are ready to break through to something lasting in your love life.
One of the biggest mistakes people make is that they don’t take responsibility for their results. They claim that dating apps and websites are full of people who are either fake or just want to hook up. Or they blame where they live – either it’s too small and there aren’t enough prospects, or it’s a bustling metropolis and too difficult to meet someone.
Even worse, you start to believe that “love will come when you least expect it” so you decide to stop trying altogether.
Changing your life takes some effort and recognition that what you’ve been doing isn’t working so you’re willing to try something new.
You’re not going to lose 20lbs when you least expect it. Your dream job isn’t going to manifest because you stopped looking. Love works like everything else in life. You need a clear vision of your goal and a plan on how to make it happen.
And if it hasn’t happened yet, you need to own the fact that what you’ve been doing isn’t going to suddenly produce the results you’re hoping for.
Are you ready to do that? Here are the signs you’re tired of being single and are ready to make a change to get the lasting love you want.
Here Are 8 Signs You’re Tired Of Being Single:
You Feel Conflicted With Feelings Of Jealously And Joy With The News Of Another Engagement.
If your friend just got engaged and you have to check your jealousy (or envy) at the door, that is a sure sign that you’re tired of being single.
These conflicting feelings mean that you care about your friend and her happiness, and at the same time are wondering when it will be your turn.
If you have thoughts like, “Always the bridesmaid, never the bride,” it’s time to make a new plan to create that relationship you’ve been wishing, hoping, and praying would just happen.
We can assure you that it didn’t happen by accident for many of the brides and grooms you’ve witnessed tie the knot. Many engaged couples reveal that they approached finding a mate like a part-time job. They didn’t leave it to chance, as if their fiancé would magically show up one day.
You Find Yourself Often Complaining That There’s No One To Date
The saying, “Misery loves company,” is certainly true when it comes to being stone-cold single. Unfortunately, the company you keep will likely be your friends who are also single.
Complaining that there is no one to date is one of the signs you’re tired of being single and will likely lead to you jumping into exclusivity too soon when you do find a prospect.
Rushing into a commitment is one of the biggest mistakes we see women make. Dating for lasting-love and marriage is a skill that you can learn, however you may have some resistance to the counter-intuitive strategies that go against the grain of “Love By Accident” thinking.
You’re The First One At The Office And The Last One To Leave
It’s all too easy to put effort into a career where you get so many goodies from being successful. Having zero work-life balance can be another one of the signs you’re tired of being single.
If you don’t have downtime for yourself, for your wellbeing, for joy, for dating it will catch up with you one day. Creating a true soul partnership may require you to learn new skills, and this effort pays off as sharing your life with the love of your life – a priceless experience!
You Roll Your Eyes When Someone Asks You About Your Relationship Status
If an inquiry into your relationship status has you acting like a teenager perhaps its because you’ve grown tired of being single. It makes sense when your friends are all coupled off and you find yourself as the 3rd, 5th, or 7th wheel on a regular basis.
The gift in this experience is the awareness that you’d like things to be different.
Awareness is like getting into the driver’s seat because that’s the only position you can drive the car from. Once you are aware you can make adjustments to create the changes in your life that you want.
You Daydream About What Things Will Be Like When You’ve Found Your One
Daydreaming of your future life with your soulmate could very well mean you’re tired of being single.
It’s one thing when you’re a girl practicing her signature with a new last name while also doodling hearts and rainbows. It’s another when you’re a grown woman still believing in the fantasy that Mr. Right will magically show up and sweep you off your feet.
That’s not to say that it won’t be romantic when you connect with your beloved, it sure will be. And it will be grounded with a deeper commitment to making it last. The biggest mistake of the romantic fantasy is that you won’t have any conflict with your soulmate.
Life brings challenges whether you are single or coupled off. Having someone in your life that has your back and is willing to support you through those struggles is invaluable.
You Go In Search Of Another Cat To Adopt
Before you stop reading here just know that we have a kitty-cat at home that we adore. Are we having some fun with this stereotype? – YES!
We all know her (or some version of her), the woman who collects pets because of their unconditional love and devotion. It’s true our pets are better than us because they have mastered loving no matter what.
It’s a lesson worth learning for when you’re coupled off and your mate breaks your favorite mug when it’s his turn to do the dishes. “I love you anyway” is a great phrase when your partner disappoints you or does that thing that drives you crazy.
Sharing your life with another person requires that you love them with the same unconditional love that you give to your pets.
You Gag When You Hear Words Like Soulmate, Beloved Or True Love
Feeling cynical about love and relationship is one of the biggest signs you’re tired of being single. A cynic is nothing more than a disappointed romantic. Don’t let your struggle make you bitter.
You have the power to give meaning to the events of your life. You can decide that the world sucks because you don’t yet have what you want.
Or you can use it as motivation to finally do things differently.
You Critique Yourself After A First Date – What Did I Do Wrong?
What is your inner dialog after you have a first date with someone new? Do you criticize yourself and list everything that you did wrong?
A huge mistake you can make is thinking it is your fault and you are broken in some way because you’ve struggled with dating or having love last.
Sex is instinctual – long term, monogamous relationships are not. You can learn the skills to make love last or you can focus on feeling broken and the lie that love is just not meant to be.
It doesn’t help that you probably learned bad strategies for love in your family of origin and you’ve got some bad habits to break.
You can learn new strategies and new behaviors. You wouldn’t think you were broken if you didn’t know how to drive a car and therefore kept wrecking it. You could easily hire someone to teach you to drive.
You are not broken because you have bad strategies. You can learn a new way to date and to love.
Being tired and being ready are two different things. You’re ready to create long-lasting love when you recognize the signs that you’re tired of being single and you recognize that you want to find a new way.
The skills to make love last can be learned (and it’s not more romantic when it just happens). If you’re ready to learn a new way to create love, then join us for a complimentary Soulmate Strategy Session and we’ll help you find your path to long-lasting, soul-satisfying love.
About the authors
Orna and Matthew Walters are soulmate coaches and prolific writers about love. Finding love, keeping love, healing from heartbreak, bringing in your beloved and more. They have been published on MSN, Yahoo!, YourTango, Redbook, and have been featured guest experts on BRAVO’s THE MILLIONAIRE MATCHMAKER with Patti Stanger, and as guests with Esther Perel speaking about love and intimacy.