7 Obvious Signs He Likes You
If you’ve ever had a guy come on strong, sending you flowers, texting you constantly, and then disappearing into the guy Bermuda triangle, you may wonder if you recognize the signs he likes you or not.
Or maybe there was that one guy who always seemed to be hanging around, but never made the effort to move things forward. He’d respond when you texted and gladly hook up with you, but it never materialized into a real relationship. You may wonder if he really likes you or not.
Here’s the truth: Generally, guys are not very subtle. There are obvious signs he likes you. If you are trying to interpret every little thing he says and does, let us help you end that right now. Here are the obvious signs he likes you.
7 Obvious Signs He Likes You
He’s Putting In The Effort
One of the most obvious signs he likes you is that he’s putting in the effort to move the relationship forward. He regularly reaches out to you to schedule a date. He texts and calls to see how you are doing and is genuinely interested in what you like and don’t like.
He follows through on his word. If he says he’s going to call, he calls. He doesn’t cancel your dates at the last minute with a flimsy excuse. He gives you his full attention when you are together.
He’s even willing to go out of his way to see you. He doesn’t complain about having to drive an hour to meet you in your part of town. He isn’t asking if you’ll meet him around the corner from his office or if you’ll take a Lyft to meet him. He may even schedule and pay for the ride for you to see him if you don’t live near where he’d like to take you.
The guy who sends you mixed signals, or who is distracted by his phone while you’re spending time with him isn’t serious about you. Don’t put any effort into seeing this type of guy (even if he’s hot hot hot) because once you stop making things convenient for them they will disappear.
Instead, focus on finding the guy who’s paying attention to what is important to you and makes sure that your time with him is meaningful and fun. If he is putting in the effort to see you and connect with you, he obviously likes you.
He Wants Exclusivity, But He’s Not In A Rush
A guy who likes you wants to claim you. He wants to take you off the market as soon as he can. An obvious sign he likes you is that he is willing to let you set the pace of the relationship. He is willing to wait for when you are ready instead of trying to rush you into a relationship.
A relationship-ready man will go looking for his woman. When he finds her, he doesn’t want to waste time. He’ll want to get rid of the distraction of dating other women and focus solely on you. If he likes and respects you, he will not turn away simply because you want to take things slow. He will wait until you are ready to commit to him.
A guy who isn’t willing to wait for you is not the right guy for you. Don’t waste your time on impatient men. Look for the obvious sign that he likes you because he respects your timeline.
He Includes You In His Life
Another obvious sign he likes you is introducing you to his friends and family. Relationships do not occur in a vacuum. So, a man who invites you to meet his friends and to family get-togethers is serious about you. He shares about his work and his interests in order for you to get to know him better.
It may seem romantic or exciting to have a secret affair with a man who only wants you for himself, but the truth is he is probably hiding something from you. A guy who likes you will openly share about his life and make you a part of it.
He is also interested in your life. He’ll want to meet your friends and family. He’s considering the larger community you are creating as a couple. He’ll want to examine how your two lives fit together to see if you’re a match for the long term.
When a guy likes you, he won’t keep you just for himself, he will show you off to his friends and family.
He Tries To Impress You
A guy who likes you wants you to respect him and see him as an asset in your life. He wants to feel like he can be your hero and solve your problems. One obvious sign he likes you is he will go out of his way to impress you.
He wants you to think that he is special in some way. Like many animals going through a mating dance, he will puff up his feathers and show off for you. He may try to impress you with his earning ability, his intelligence, his charm, or his expensive toys (like watches, boats, or a fancy car).
Whether he is talking non-stop about how important his job is or making sure you see his sports car parked right in front of the restaurant, he wants to show you that he can deliver what you want. However, he may not think to find out how to specifically impress you.
Do not discount a guy who is talking too much about himself or showing off his fancy toys. He wants you to see him as desirable. Let him know how to impress you and see if he can make an adjustment. Because a man trying to impress you is an obvious sign he likes you and he may be a keeper.
He Makes Plans In Advance
Whether he wants to buy you tickets to a concert a few weeks away or he is interested in your plans for the holidays, a guy who likes you will plan future dates with you. It’s an obvious sign he likes you if he’s asking you out in advance to a special event or a vacation.
Some guys like to keep things casual, texting last minute to get together and stay vague about the future. These guys may find you attractive and interesting, but they aren’t ready to commit or truly pursue you for a relationship.
You can easily discover the difference between these two types of men by meeting their effort and nothing more. Give any guy the opportunity to lead, and you will discover his intentions with you.
If he pursues you, asking you out in advance, and plans a date for the future you can count on these signs that he likes you.
One obvious sign he likes you is that he is planning a future with you in it.
He Wants To Make You Happy
Of all the signs that he likes you, this may be the easiest one to spot. When a man likes you and wants a relationship with you, he will want to make you happy. He will look for ways to bring more joy into your life and alleviate your stress.
If he is curious to know your favorite things this is a sign that he likes you. Whether it’s your favorite hobbies, food, dessert, or vacation spots, they all point to his interest in what makes you happy.
Don’t blow off his curious questions or answer with a vague, “I don’t know.” Batting your eyelashes here may move the relationship forward physically but may not get you the kind of long-term relationship you’re looking for.
If he asks about you, then answer him, and the more specific you are the better.
We had a client several years ago who is a bit shy and private. During our coaching sessions, we encouraged her to open up and share her likes and dislikes while dating. For a third date, a man surprised her by taking her to a concert of a group she loved and also packed a picnic of all her favorite things including a pricey bottle of wine she had mentioned to him previously. They got married in July of this year.
Never skip over sharing your authentic self because a man who likes you will want to add to your joy and make you happy in every way that he can.
He Likes You For Who You Are
A man who likes you won’t ask or expect you to change. He likes those little quirks about you that make you unique and special. An obvious sign he likes you is when he shares with you those little things about you that bring a smile to his face. He likes you for who you are.
It may seem clear that if he is complimenting you, he likes you, but many women overlook this obvious sign. A man who likes you will even like the things that other guys have complained about.
Did one guy say you were too intense? This man loves your passion. Did someone find you a little odd? Your man is into your quirkiness. The man who likes you, likes you because you are different. He likes you for your authentic self and would never ask you to change.
A guy who asks or needs you to change, whether it is your appearance or your behavior, doesn’t really like you. He’s trying to make you into what he likes. You’ll find you are twisting into a pretzel to try and please him. You can’t hold a different shape for a lifetime plus it’s exhausting to try.
Look for the man who likes you as is, just like a unique piece of furniture he found at a thrift store. It may have a few scratches, but it definitely has character.
Stop trying to understand the mysteries of male behavior and instead focus on the obvious signs that he likes you and you’ll never have to wonder what his intentions are.
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About the authors
Orna and Matthew Walters are soulmate coaches and prolific writers about love. Finding love, keeping love, healing from heartbreak, bringing in your beloved and more. They have been published on MSN, Yahoo!, YourTango, Redbook, and have been featured guest experts on BRAVO’s THE MILLIONAIRE MATCHMAKER with Patti Stanger, and as guests with Esther Perel speaking about love and intimacy.