11 Ways To Tap Into Your Feminine Energy Before A First Date Or First Meeting

Are you connected to your feminine energy? Or are you so focused on getting things done in your life that dating and finding love are just another task on your to-do list?

Feminine energy somehow got a bad rap over the last few decades. So perhaps you’re unaware of how important it is to tap into your feminine energy before a first date or first meeting. As a heterosexual woman, one who wants to settle down in a romantic relationship with a man, tapping into your feminine energy before you go out on a date, and through the dating process, will speed up your ability to create the soulmate relationship you are looking for.

The truth is, feminine energy is NOT passive. If you’ve ever been in a storm, you know this to be true. It’s not Father Nature – it’s Mother Nature – and this powerful energy that you came into the world with can be channeled to identify an ideal match for long-lasting, soul-satisfying love by following these practices. Connect to your feminine power before a first date or first meeting and discover how powerful it can be to relax, respond, and redirect.

11 Ways To Tap Into Your Feminine Energy Before A First Date Or First Meeting

  1. Know The Difference Between Masculine And Feminine Energy

Masculine energy is directed, analytical, single-focused, competitive, and goal-driven. It is great for getting things done. Feminine energy is emotional, inclusive, reflective, sensual, and reciprocal. It is great for creating connection.

All humans have access to both masculine and feminine energy. These energetics are on a dial-switch so you can accentuate one by dialing it up or choose to downplay it. Women are often rewarded in their careers and on the job when stepping into their masculine energy.

The dance of intimate relationship flows easily when there is a balance of masculine and feminine energies between the two partners. Two masculine energies will be too competitive to dance together. Two feminine energies are reciprocal, and no one ends up taking the lead.

Just like two ballroom dancers, the strong masculine energy leads and creates a firm foundation for the feminine energy to emanate and express its creativity.

  1. Create A Ritual For Yourself

Having rituals is an important tool for grounding yourself and connecting to your feminine energy. Use your sensory experiences to connect to your feelings and body sensations. Being grounded in your body and present in the moment connects you to your femininity. Whether it is a song you love, a perfume or scented candle, or an outfit you feel sexy in, change your energy from getting things done to connecting with your senses. Before going on a first date connect with your sensual side. Your sensuality and your femininity are innately connected. Getting in touch with your senses will allow you to show up authentically and be present for your date.

Rituals allow you to transition from one state to another and create a system for making this transition. Creating a ritual for yourself, even if it is as simple as lighting a candle or listening to a particular song signals your mind that you are no longer in work or achievement mode. These practices will create the space to relax into your feminine energy.

Tapping into your feminine energy before a first date or first meeting grounds you in the present moment. From this place, you are more receptive and open to making a meaningful connection.

  1. Connect To Your Emotional State

Your emotional state is your most authentic state. Connecting to your emotions will get you out of an analytical state of mind and into your feminine energy. Sit down, ground your feet on the floor, close your eyes, and connect to your body.

Emotions are the same as body sensations. Connecting to your body will allow you to become aware of your feelings, which is very different than your thoughts. See if you can complete the phrase, “I feel _______.” Allow your emotions to be what they are, without judgment.

Connecting to your emotional life taps you into your feminine energy making you more present and more able to express yourself authentically.

  1. Remember That Attraction Is Born Out Of The Differences

Just like magnets are drawn together by the polar opposites, men and women come together from opposite energies. This is built into human species survival. You are attracted to someone who is different than you because you’ll each have different strengths and weaknesses. This leverages the likelihood for the family unit to survive.

By tapping into your feminine energy before a first date or meeting you will evaluate the person you’re meeting from a different point of view. Instead of looking for someone who is like you, you’ll want to cultivate discernment through the dating process to discover over time if the two of you have shared values.

  1. Don’t Abdicate Your Power

Somehow feminine energy has been perceived as passive, and this could not be further from the truth. Your feminine energy is powerful because you get to set the tone and the speed of the dating process. Leaning into your receptive energy puts you in a position to decide if your date has won another date with you.

Allowing the man to lead does not mean you have to follow. You have veto power and the only way to harness that energy is by standing firmly in your feminine energy. A man who wants a relationship with you will pursue you for a relationship. If you become the pursuer the energetics will be off, and when you want him to step up to claim you the disappointment will be difficult to overcome.

By tapping into your feminine energy before a first date you’ll know if a man is interested from the start, so you’ll waste less time on the guys who are just looking for some companionship and be able to focus on the men who desire a real relationship with you.

  1. You’ll Never Wonder Where The Relationship Is Going

By tapping into your feminine energy before a first meeting you’ll be setting the tone for the dating process right from the start. Just like the saying: You never get a second chance to make a first impression, you’ll want to show up connected to your femininity even if you enjoy being adventurous, working on cars, or leading your business at the office. How you show up to a first meeting or first date will create the setting for connection or disconnection.

Allowing the man to drive the relationship forward while you relax into your feminine and evaluate whether or not he is a match for you will mean you never have to ask where the relationship is going. He’ll either be showing you where it’s going every step of the way, or it will end before it begins because he isn’t the one pursuing you for more.

The key is to not appear disinterested or aloof, so you’ll want to give a man you are interested in some encouragement and let him know that the water is warm. Courtship used to have clear rules of engagement and even though times have changed you’ll still want to embrace your feminine energy so that you don’t waste your time pursuing a man who will never give you a commitment or claim you for a long-term relationship.

  1. Cultivate Chemistry And Connection Instead Of Competition

Two feminine energies together are reciprocal while two masculine energies are competitive. Showing up in your masculine energy for a first date or first meeting sets in motion a competitive environment, one where chemistry and attraction cannot survive.

No man wants to compete with the woman he is attracted to. He wants to provide something of value to her. It used to be that men provided security and stability by being the breadwinner; today it can be something else entirely. Create connection by knowing what it is you specifically want a man to provide for you in a relationship. Then you can quickly identify an ideal match and deselect the guys who can’t be bothered.

Tapping into your feminine energy before a first date or first meeting will allow you to create connection and the spark of chemistry so that a man pursues you for a commitment.

  1. Show Up Instead Of Showing Off

Because feminine energy is responsive it’s important to show up as your authentic self. Share on a first date what you do and don’t like. Do not iron out any bumps or try to make things easy for him. A date is not like a job interview – there’s no need to show off your resume or your communication skills.

It’s the man’s job to woo you just like in the animal kingdom. Treat dates like a mating ritual and allow the dance of the masculine and feminine to guide you so you don’t step on each other’s toes. There’s no way to dance if both participants are trying to lead, or both trying to follow along. Let nature do its thing by doing less and see if he steps up to impress you and takes the lead. Showing off puts you in your masculine and creates a competitive environment.

These dynamics are set in motion from when you first start communicating with him. It’s very difficult to switch things around once the courtship has set sail. Let him be the captain so you can see where he takes you. Keep your map handy so you can be the navigator, and most of all remember you hold the keys to the engine so you can let things idle or allow him to move things forward at a pace that you’re comfortable with.

Tapping into your feminine energy puts you in the seat to control the pace. Remember, you hold both masculine and feminine energy so make a conscious choice to see if romance is possible. The energetics between the two of you will ebb and flow over time in a long-term relationship. It’s important to set things up from the start so you can select an ideal match.

  1. End The Date After An Hour

Meeting for the first time is like an “amuse-bouche” – an appetizer that is just one bite. It’s just a sampling. About an hour is the right amount of time to know if you want to see each other again. Have somewhere to go, make a plan to depart, and if you want to see him again then let him know you enjoyed yourself.

Tap into your feminine energy by putting the ball back in his court if he suggests you reach out to him next time. It’s easy to respond by not taking the wheel and letting him know that you are expecting him to drive the boat.

Many guys will want to check you out first and then invite you to go to a second location for the meaty part of the date. Do not go along to get along. If you’re serious about creating a soulmate relationship, then leave him wanting more.

  1. Do Not Iron Out The Bumps

Don’t worry if things get off to a bumpy start because every relationship will have some conflict. How the two of you move through those disagreements is an important evaluation through the dating process to know if there is staying power in the relationship.

Tapping into your feminine energy for a first date allows you to share who you are. Speak up about your likes and dislikes. Sometimes you find common ground by first finding out where you’re not in alignment.

Don’t make the mistake of being too accommodating because he’s hot. If he’s hot but you two don’t share values or can’t agree on much there’s nothing substantial that will allow a relationship to grow.

  1. Remember That You Are The Prize

When you tap into your feminine energy before a first date or first meeting, you’ll be standing in your power. Know your worth, and the value you provide in a relationship. This is not about your appearance or how much you weigh. There is a lid for every pot.

When you know you are the prize you can relax into your feminine energy and let the man show off and pursue you. Then you’re in the position of giving him feedback or redirecting him altogether so he knows how to please you. The man who wants to share his life with you will want to be your hero – let him.

Dating is not like going on a job interview or achieving your life goals. Make dating more enjoyable by relaxing into the dance of the masculine and feminine, and creating the space for your ideal match to show up for you. Access your personal power by tapping into your feminine energy. You’ll feel more satisfied and less anxious dating a man who is willing and interested in dancing with you.

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About the authors

Love Coaches Orna and Matthew Walters

Orna and Matthew Walters are soulmate coaches and prolific writers about love. Finding love, keeping love, healing from heartbreak, bringing in your beloved and more. They have been published on MSN, Yahoo!, YourTango, Redbook, and have been featured guest experts on BRAVO’s THE MILLIONAIRE MATCHMAKER with Patti Stanger, and as guests with Esther Perel speaking about love and intimacy.

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