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Tired Of Being Alone? Here Are The 7 Best Tips To Cope With Loneliness While Quarantined
03 / 22 / 2020
Are you tired of being alone and being told to stay isolated due to the coronavirus pandemic?
This virus has made its way around the world in record time – certainly not a good thing, except to take note that we are all interconnected. Walt Disney had it right, “It’s a small world after all.”
Have you caught up on your Netflix watch list and ready for something more meaningful? Being alone through a challenging time can bring about feelings of isolation and despair, so we want to catch you before you fall.
Don’t let isolation cause you to withdraw and exacerbate feelings of loneliness. Instead take actions that inspire you, help you to keep a positive mindset, and connect you to your friends and family.
If you’re tired of being alone and wondering when you’ll next get a hug from someone, we want to offer you some ways to feel connected to others even while remaining physically distant.
Here Are The 7 Best Tips To Cope With Loneliness While Quarantined
Reach Out To Friends & Schedule Regular Times To Check-In
If you’re tired of being alone and you’ve been hoping that your special someone will fulfill every part of your life, that might be a tall order. No one person can be everything to you.
Women and men need friends that are a support system, and now is a good time to create stronger bonds with the friends you have. Reach out to friends and connect with them via video chat, like Skype or Face Time.
Make this part of your self-care routine and schedule time to connect with a few friends virtually on a regular basis or in a small group.
You can get creative and play games virtually like Yahtzee or Scrabble, have a virtual movie watch party, or host a dance party from your porch or computer.
Limit Your News Intake – Including Social Media
Watching or reading the news can really drain your energy and take your emotional state into a downward spiral. Stay up to date on local information and also limit your access to news headlines and reports.
Feeling tired of being alone can be exacerbated by hearing the same doom and gloom stories in the news over and over again, so protect yourself by setting a limit before you’ve gone off the cliff of feeling badly.
Maybe take one day off from consuming news entirely. If you’re following the guidelines of social distancing anyway, you won’t miss out on much if you skip out on one day a week. You may find you enjoy being unplugged for a day!
If you are going to spend time on social media, make positive choices that have you feeling connected to your community. Post positive memes and ask others to share their inspiration. Join an online group that inspires you and creates a network of like-minded souls. Or start your own online group and connect around the world with others who can uplift you on the days your feeling down and inspire you to share your passions and make the best of your time in quarantine.
Speak Up About How You Feel & Practice Being Authentic
One of the biggest reasons you can feel alone (even when you’re not) is to distance yourself from those you love by not sharing how you are feeling. Everyone wants to be accepted for who they really are and yet most people are afraid to show up as who they really are.
Share your authentic self and give your loved ones the opportunity to support you through this time.
If you’re feeling like a jumble of nerves and anxiety and not quite sure how you feel, then first take time to discover your emotional life. Set up alarms on your phone throughout the day and track your emotional state. If sharing your feelings with another person feels too scary, practice saying your feelings out loud to yourself (or in a mirror). Simply state out loud, “I feel __(emotion)__.”
Emotions are part of being human, and expressing them out loud allows you to release them. Emotions are just energy and energy expressed is energy released.
Many positive people hide their negative feelings and try to gloss over them with positive thinking. While you shouldn’t allow yourself to wallow in fear and self-pity, ignoring your fear or sadness can create an underlying uneasiness and anxiety.
Being detached from your emotions can create a chronic feeling of disconnection from others. The pathway to connect with others is by being curious about how they feel and think, and by sharing how you feel and think. So if you’ve spent a lifetime being focused on others use this time to go inward and create a connection with yourself by identifying how you are feeling (without judging your emotions).
Genuinely happy people also feel badly sometimes, they just don’t stay that way for long. Make it your goal to feel all your feelings and rather than judging them and wishing that you’d feel differently just accept your emotional life as information.
Once you’ve collected the data of what you feel, then you can decide if you want to take action to change your feeling state. If you’re tired of being alone and you’re now quarantined and staying in for many more hours than usual, it makes sense that you’d feel badly. It’s appropriate for you to feel however you feel right now in this moment.
You connect with others by expressing how you feel – it is the path to emotional intimacy. You can also open the door to connect by asking others how they are feeling.
During this stressful time, you may want to ask your friends and family, “How are you feeling today?” This will allow the other person to make it relative instead of an open-ended question.
Resist the urge to try to change how someone else is feeling. Give other people grace and acceptance by acknowledging how they feel. This may take some practice, and it may even feel awkward at first. Eventually, you’ll be modeling the kind of communication that includes acceptance that you desire to receive from the people in your life.
Remember that your feelings (all of them) are temporary. The good feelings don’t last either so no matter what is coming up for you, speak it out loud to yourself or to a friend. Acknowledge your feelings and take some time to simply feel them.
After all, you are a human being – not a human doing. Just allow yourself to feel anything and everything that is coming up and release any judgment that your feelings “should” be different.
Ask For Help If You Need It
If you’re tired of being alone you will benefit greatly by becoming accustomed to asking for assistance. Every person you know would feel good by doing something nice for you.
Now is not the time to be stoic or put up a false front of strength when you feel down or frustrated. Reach out to your family, friends, and community and ask for their help and advice. Most people want to help and are happy to step up for you when you need it.
If you are one of the helpers, then please make sure that you have the support you need to continue being of service. If you are exhausted or feeling resentful because you are giving but no one is stepping up to support you, speak up and reach out. Many people are looking for something more meaningful to do than binging TV shows and posting memes on social media.
Let others know how they can be of service to you. You’ll be surprised at how many people will step up in your time of need.
Deepen Or Begin A Meditation Or Prayer Practice
One of the best ways to counteract feeling alone is to be connected to source through meditation and prayer. The idea that we are all one and the oneness of the universe is all achieved through connecting with you first and foremost.
Meditation and prayer remind you that you are part of something larger than what is happening on the news or in your local community. Connecting to a higher power can help give you the strength to persevere when times get tough. Put your faith in something greater than yourself and you’ll discover a deeper purpose for the events happening in your life.
A practice of prayer can bring hope to your situation, calm your nervous system, build inner strength, and connect you to something more meaningful. Here is one of our favorite daily prayers:
“Dear God. What is it you want from me? What are you bringing me that I am not seeing?”
Silently repeat this prayer in the evening before sleep or in the morning before you get out of bed. Spend a few minutes in quiet contemplation and see what answers come to you.
There are many different types of mediation practices and we suggest that you try out different methods to see which one resonates with you the strongest. Look for online courses or virtual classes where you can simply follow along.
You can start off meditating a few minutes per day and then add on time or simply add on sessions. So if you begin with 10 minutes in the AM you can add on to that, or do a second 10-minute session before bed.
I feel bad when I appear in a closed area like elevator or a closed room. In short I would say I have a claustrophobia. I avoid being alone in closed areas and once the elevator of a building where my friend lives was stopped and I was alone in this elevator. I understood that I start to panic. I called the alarm ring, but I felt that the panic is attacking me. I started heavy breathing and I couldn’t wait for the help. It seemed me a whole life until they opened the elevator. I was really bad and I went to a doctor. He spoke to me and prescribed me 0.5 mg Xanax daily. Xanax (Alprazolam) at helped me to overcome my fear and I become free off the panic attacks.
The benefits of meditating daily are vast; here are a few: less anxiety, a calm peaceful mind, more focused throughout the day, feeling more grounded and resourceful, and better sleep.
Practice Gratitude and Share It With Others
Gratitude in times of trouble is one of your most effective tools for becoming more resilient. A gratitude practice will increase your happiness and give you a new perspective on the events in your life. Instead of focusing on feeling tired of being alone, put your focus on what is good in your life.
Begin a gratitude journal by writing down five things you are grateful for every night before going to sleep. Encourage your family members to share what they are grateful for each day. Share your gratitude practice on social media and ask your community what they are grateful for.
Take time to tell your local cashiers at the market or pharmacy how grateful you are for them showing up at work and for making sure we all have enough food and supplies. Send online cards or emails to the people you cherish and let them know how much they mean to you.
By taking your gratitude practice out into the world and sharing it with others you will feel connected to a much larger community.
Foster A Pet
Social distancing and stay at home orders are causing many issues at animal shelters. With so much uncertainty many people are choosing to not adopt and most adoption events have been canceled.
Shelter animals need our help and they offer many benefits. Cuddling and caring for a pet will curb your loneliness. Fostering a pet allows it to be a temporary situation if you’re not ready to make a full commitment.
If you do decide to adopt a pet at this time you’ll have plenty of time to bond while staying at home. Many people admit that their pets have actually saved them (rather than the other way around).
The unconditional love that you receive from a pet can teach you so much about love and being in a loving relationship.
Please take time during this crisis to nurture your self and share your love with those around you. We are here to be of service to you during this time and send you our love and support. Together we can take this crisis and use it as an opportunity to create a better, more loving world for everyone.
About the authors
Orna and Matthew Walters are soulmate coaches and prolific writers about love. Finding love, keeping love, healing from heartbreak, bringing in your beloved and more. They have been published on MSN, Yahoo!, YourTango, Redbook, and have been featured guest experts on BRAVO’s THE MILLIONAIRE MATCHMAKER with Patti Stanger, and as guests with Esther Perel speaking about love and intimacy.