This week’s question comes from Anna

“Orna and Matthew,

Thank you for your Love Notes. I hope you can help me.

I’m in my mid-40s and I’m starting to think that a great relationship is not in the cards for me…

I was married briefly in my 20’s, but that was just foolish young love. We broke it off after less than a year. Since then, I’ve struggled to find a man who is willing or able to commit to me. Honestly, I’ve put most of my energy into my career the last 15 years.

Because of that, I’ve been successful, but it has been at the expense of my personal relationships. I have great friends, however, I really struggle when it comes to allowing a man to get close to me. For some reason it doesn’t feel safe to let a man know how I really feel.

I’ve done coaching before and therapy (also all kinds of energy work and spiritual programs – I’m kind of a personal growth junky). I’ve read about your programs and I’m still not exactly sure what it is that coaching with you would do for me that would be different than what I’ve done. Would you kindly explain what you do with clients in private coaching and what are the benefits that I would receive?

I really like your direct approach in answering questions in your weekly Love Notes and I do believe that you are sincere in wanting to help people. Maybe you could help me, but how do I know for sure?

Thank you for your work in the world,


Dear Anna,

We are happy to hear that you enjoy reading our newsletter. We put a lot of thought into selecting and answering a question from our Love On Purpose community every week.

Now to answer your question as best we can. We often say that we utilize the “tools of transformation” to identify and remove subconscious blocks to love. We use that phrase “The Tools Of Transformation” because between the two of us we have a very large toolbox and in all the years that we’ve been coaching, nothing we do is cookie-cutter. Everything depends on the client and what she brings to each session.

Matthew is a Certified Hypnotherapist as well as trained in Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) and Therapeutic Imagery. All of these trainings are designed to speak the language of the subconscious mind.

The subconscious has only two buckets – Known and Unknown. It cannot judge (that happens in our big prefrontal cortex). We guide our clients from what they experienced as “love” in their family of origin to creating the love that is in their true heart’s desire.

Orna is a Professional Hand Analyst and has been reading hands and fingerprints utilizing scientific non-predictive palmistry since the 90’s. Hand Analysis is the ultimate coaching tool as it gives insights quickly and easily to your Life Purpose and Life Lesson.

These tools allow us to address your situation on all levels – physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual. It is working on all these levels at the same time that creates a powerful transformation.

We like to say it like this: You connect with your Beloved on the path to your highest and best self. Coaching with us will leapfrog you forward on that path.

Your inner world creates your outer world, so what you believe to be true for you is what you will create. We are curious about your choice to write this statement: “I’m starting to think that a great relationship is not in the cards for me…“

You are the master creator of your own life. So if you think that you have somehow missed the boat for love then that will be true for you. We have coached clients as young as 22 and as old as 74 with great success.

The good news and the bad news is that YOU are the only thing in your way from having a great relationship. We can assure you that coaching with us will not be like anything else you’ve experienced. There is very little talk about your past.

Knowing why you are the way you are is helpful for understanding, however, that understanding will never create a change in your behavior. Look at all the millions of people around the globe who understand that smoking is bad for them and will cut their life short. Yet even with that understanding, they light up several times a day.

Talking about your negative patterns in relationship will not change those patterns either. The best we can do is let you know that coaching with us is EXPERIENTIAL. All of our private clients experience a shift in their behavior and once that shift happens there is no more going back to an old strategy that doesn’t work.

It is a process and requires a commitment because we are complex as human beings. We are not wired like a light-switch on the wall with only an On or Off position.

Your Love Imprint™ has been in place for decades and it will take some time to shift it. What we know for certain is that it will shift and that will cause a whole new kind of man to show up for you.

If you would like to speak with us directly about Your Love Imprint™ and Private Coaching please submit your application here.

Love and Abundance,

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