This week’s question comes from Niveen:

“Dear Orna and Matthew,

I do believe that Creating Love On Purpose® is the only way to attract what you need. My biggest problem in love is the men I feel that I deserve I seem invisible to them.

I am very visible in my work and socially but in love I feel I get pushed aside. I am ready to be visible to the men I deserve and to take a leap of faith to good men. I just need guidance.

Thank you.”

Dear Niveen,

We’re so glad to hear you are on board with the idea of Creating Love On Purpose®! We know from the experience we’ve had with thousands of women over the last 8+ years that this is the most effective way to create long-lasting, soul-satisfying love.

The first step is to realize that you are the common denominator in all of your relationships. This means that the problem isn’t the kind of men you are meeting and whether or not they “see” you.

The issue is with your internal beliefs about yourself. It is your beliefs that shape your experiences, not the other way around.

Most people look backwards at their experiences and analyze the events through the lens of their belief systems. In essence, they find evidence of what they already believe.

Another way of saying this is “The world is as we believe it to be.” So the key for you to change this pattern is to look at your belief systems about what it means to be visible in your relationships. Was this modeled for you as a child?

Were you taught as a child that it is better to be seen and not heard? Was it safe for you to be visible in your family of origin, or were you punished for standing out? Did you feel rejected and ignored by one or both of your parents?

These are the type of questions that once you answer them you’ll have a much clearer understanding of the system that is keeping you stuck and feeling invisible.

Being successful in your work or career is not the same as being successful in your relationships. Lasting-love requires a completely different skill set.

Taking a leap of faith is a good start, but changing your limiting beliefs will bring you much closer to creating the love you desire.

We call this system running in your subconscious mind around love and relationships Your Love Imprint®. It consists of three parts:

  1. Your mental and emotional patterns
  2. Your limiting beliefs
  3. Your behavioral strategies around giving and receiving love

Understanding this system is the “Your Are Here” spot on your map to love. Many of the women we speak with are clear about what they desire, but are not clear on where they are, so the map to their Beloved is hard to see.

Uncovering Your Love Imprint® is the first and most important step. When you know where you are, then the steps to where you want to be become clearer to you.

If you would like some assistance in diagnosing Your Love Imprint®, you can apply for a Your Love Imprint® Session with us by clicking here: www.YourLoveImprint.com

We are here to be your guides to love.

Love and Abundance,